Change Requires You to Shift Your Focus from Why to What

Making a change in your life may not seem like a big deal, but it is. Moving from a fixed mindset to one that supports growth allows you to shift your focus from why to what. If you spend less time beating yourself up for shortcomings, you can redirect negative energy into positive beliefs that support your tackling new challenges. Accept the fact that others, including your friends and family, don't care if you fail spectacularly. So, stop basing your life's decision on what they think. If you haven't already, it is time to stop comparing your life with other people's lives.

Although the first step is to ask yourself what you want the end result to be, achieving this requires cultivating a growth mindset, such as:

• Accept the Fact Your Thinking Needs an Adjustment -The maladaptive concept of mid-life crisis has now led to discussions of a quarter-life crisis. Stop externalizing your achievements and implement a growth mindset to gain validation from within. Always believe that change is possible and don't listen to others. Your actions will change things.
• Start with Very Attainable Goals - Studies have shown that as a person's mindset changes from rigid to growth-oriented, it leads to motivated goal setting with faster results. Your focus should be on developing your growth mindset. Join groups online that discuss personal growth. As your mindset starts to change, you will find it easier to connect with others who face similar situations.
• Set the Right Pace - Simply getting into action and pursuing your vision sets the foundation for all other changes to take place. Don't worry about how long change takes. Cognitive, affective, and behavioral components impact your achievements based upon the flexibility of your beliefs and malleability of intelligence.

Self-sabotage guru Sean Stephenson wrote, "Fairness is an illusion. Fairness never existed and never will. No one in life gets less or more than anyone else. We just get different stuff... It's up to you to find your gift." Whether you are aware of it or not, your mind is constantly monitoring and interpreting input to keep you on track. Your mindset can help build self-confidence and willpower to overcome any problem you face, but your mindset must be results oriented for you to successfully tackle new obstacles. Developing the right mindset is the easiest way to learn something new. It allows you to redefine beliefs to help you get to where you want to be in life.