Learning From Those Who Went Before Us

By Candace Burch, MA, MRC Hormone Health Educator

I recently traveled to South Korea to visit my daughter who is over there teaching English to children in the high rises of Seoul. In eight days she showed us all that she had discovered in eight months, so needless to say it was a blur of ancient and uber-modern that I am still processing. But for all the images I crammed into my brain what struck me most were the older women. Almost every one of them was bow-legged and bent medieval-like over ubiquitous canes. They were everywhere you looked, and I found it excruciating to watch them hobbling up steep stairs or across narrow streets clogged with impatient motorists. More than once I had to cover my eyes at the sight of a tiny figure painfully picking her way across a busy intersection. And by the way, not all of these women were as elderly as I at first assumed – some looked to be in their 60s, not that much older than me!

So, as a health educator and true believer in optimal aging, all I could think was, “Whew, what a difference a few nutrients make!” Like calcium, magnesium, Vitamin D, EFAs … without these in adequate amounts, I expect we might all resemble our post-menopausal Asian counterparts who in following their traditional diet of rice, fish and vegetables, though healthy in some respects (and indeed I only saw one moderately obese person while there) are seriously lacking in essential nutrients.

At the same time, one has to consider that this is not just a problem confined to older women in Korea who may also have spent years planting rice and eating their meals on the floor. For one thing, the vitamin D-deficiency that causes rickets and bow-legs is still epidemic in many parts of the world, particularly in northern latitudes, and among those who reside in gray, rainy climates like the Pacific Northwest where I live. But it’s not just about where you live but HOW you live. At a conference on hormone balance this summer, an anti-aging physician from Florida said how stunned she was at the number of patients living in the “sunshine state” who were perilously low in vitamin D. That’s significant because we’re not just talking about rickets when it comes to vitamin D-deficiency but about increased obesity and body fat, heart disease and breast cancer risks, as well.

So achieving balanced health, bones or hormones for that matter (by the way – Vitamin D is not actually a vitamin, but a hormone formed by the action of sunlight upon the skin) takes some doing, and is a work in progress. Speaking of progress, I would be remiss not to mention that younger Koreans are definitely onto this. Food sources of calcium and vitamin D, such as milk, cheese and eggs, are now widely available (though still very expensive) in the shops, and the younger generation is indeed taller and straighter-legged. One woman I was talking to about this mentioned that her mother takes estrogen “for her bones.” And of course that got me going. I couldn’t resist asking if she was also taking natural progesterone, but alas, that question was met with a blank stare. Should I have been surprised? Probably not. The concept of hormone balance vs. imbalance and the growing preference for bioidentical, natural hormones has only shifted in this country in the last five years since the Women’s Health Initiative study revealed the dangers of synthetic hormones in HRT (hormone replacement therapy) users. (I didn’t harp on the subject; though I admit trying to raise a little awareness about the importance of hormone balance!)

Sometimes we have to learn the slow, hard way. From those who went before us, the women with the bent spines and flaking bones of osteoporosis, not to mention all the others with diseases that might have been prevented had we known more. They are the lessons, and we are learning. You can’t push the river, but you can learn to practice balance one day at a time.

So let’s get started! Whether you’re concerned about your bones or your belly fat, ensuring that your hormones are in balance is the first step. Visit one of our MRC locations today to learn more about our Body in Balance weight loss and hormone wellness program. We like to call it “the missing link to weight loss.” A hormone detection kit comes with the program and using this simple home collection kit, you can test for imbalances that may be sabotaging your waistline. Collecting your hormones is simple: just spit into a few tubes over the course of one day and send the samples back to the lab by UPS. The results are returned within a week to your MRC consultant who will call you to set up an appointment to review the report. Then depending on what it tells us, we can take action to personalize your weight loss program with specific nutrients, rebalancing supplements and stress reduction counseling to help you achieve lasting weight loss, symptom relief and optimal health.

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Listen to Your Intuition

Melissa L. White

By Melissa L. White, LCSW, MRC Medical Advisory Board member

So, I had a cosmic experience today where the universe came through and helped me do what I needed to do. Ever have moments like that? Well, today was profound in its meaning – not the actual task per say – and started me thinking about all the times things have worked out, or I have listened to my gut, or someone has intervened at the right time and in the right place.

We all get so caught up in what’s wrong on a day-to-day basis that we often don’t think about what is going right and remind ourselves of those little moments of salvation where someone or something has come through for us to let us know that we are not alone out there. Someone or some entity is watching out for us. Call it the universe, call it your inner wisdom, call it divine intervention or call it the workings of angels. Whatever name you give, the bottom line is there are things that happen for us in our lives – most of the time small, and some of the times really big and profound – to remind us that we are protected and cared for and that things will really be all right.

This often comes in the form of gut feelings, or the little voice. Some call it the voice of God or your conscience. We ALL have the answers to the questions we seek. We ALL have the power to change our lives. We ALL have the power to heal, emotionally and physically. Sometimes it is just a matter of slowing down long enough to listen to ourselves. Think about the last time you had an instinct, a “gut” feeling, an “intuition” if you will. When you didn’t follow it… something usually has gone awry. It has taken me a long time to learn how to listen to myself and even now, I second guess myself. Granted, I do it a whole lot less than I did before and am much more attuned to myself thanks to a meditation retreat I had the blessed opportunity to attend.

Bottom line is when we stop to really listen to ourselves (our deep inner self), we know what we need to do, we know what the best choice is, we know which direction to go, but we let our brains get in the way too much. This is an encouragement to slow down and really LISTEN to yourself, because the answers are all right there inside.

I also believe there are no coincidences – that there is always a reason that things happen and often times that “reason” is not revealed until later. It is no coincidence that you are logged onto our Web site, reading this blog right now. This could be the jolt you need or the words you need to read to get you started on something you have been contemplating for a while! Like I said, STOP and LISTEN!

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Dodge That Cancer Diagnosis

Candace Burch

By Candace Burch, MA, MRC Hormone Health Educator

Helping women to lose weight and balance their hormones is one of the most important things we can ever do to help reduce breast cancer risks in our lifetime. I’ve got science and the medical literature on my side when I say this, and the medical literature is full of studies linking lifestyle to cancers. In the essential book on breast cancer prevention, “What Your Doctor May Not Tell You About Breast Cancer, How Hormone Balance Can Help Save Your Life,” Dr. John Lee reiterates the point:

“Experts agree that environmental risk factors, such as diet and exposure to toxins and pollutants, account for about 80% of breast cancers, and genetic factors account for about 20 percent. Among the environmental risk factors for breast cancer, diet is probably as important as exposure to toxins. Even those who happen to have a genetic predisposition can improve their chances of dodging a breast cancer diagnosis with hormone balance and a healthy diet.”

This is exactly what MRC’s Body in Balance® program is all about and why our motto during breast cancer awareness month is “Prevention is Key!” So, let’s talk about best ways to improve your odds of “dodging that diagnosis”:

• Balance your hormones and achieve your weight loss goals through our Body in Balance® program

• Detect hidden hormone imbalances with the Hormone Detection Kit

• Eat whole/unprocessed foods on program and reject sugars, simple carbs and caffeine

• Eat plenty of cruciferous vegetables like cabbage, broccoli, cauliflower (see DIM below)

• Get the right amount of EFAs and good fats allowed on program

• Drink at least 64 ounces of water every day

• Avoid “xeno” (toxic) estrogens: choose “hormone-free” proteins sources, heat foods in glass or ceramic, never plastic, go for GREEN household, garden, and personal care products

• Reduce stress hormone levels – take time to unwind/counteract stress with gentle exercise and deep breathing

• Consider natural hormone rebalancing supplements, including:

CoQ10 – a powerful antioxidant that helps improve cellular oxidation and has been shown in studies to help prevent breast cancer growth/reduce risks.

CortiTrim – helps normalize cortisol stress hormone levels. (Imbalances of stress hormones lower immune system reserves to fight cancers).

Iodine – helps reduce breast cysts linked to iodine deficiency that can lead to breast cancer. Encourages natural death (apoptosis) of cancer cells.

Metabolic Glucose Formula – helps balance blood sugar levels to reduce insulin resistance. (Elevated insulin levels promotes tumor growth.)

Fiber – helps lower insulin spikes and insulin resistance.

Essential Fatty Acids (EFAs) – help regulate proper cell reproduction; inhibit tumor growth; stimulate the immune system; and reduce inflammation.

Total Woman Oils – flaxseed is known to help metabolize estrogens to lessen harmful effects of excess estrogens that promotes cancer growth.

Multi-vitamins – essential for normal cell division and function, and for strengthening immunities to fight cancers.

Trace Minerals – help protect the immune system; stimulate action of NK (natural killer) cells.

Probiotics (Super Fruit and Veggi) – anti-carcinogenic compounds help break down metabolites of estrogen, improve immune system performance, increase NK cells.

Super DIM – extract cruciferous vegetables help promote proper estrogen metabolism and help to rid body of cancer promoting xenoestrogens.

Green Tea extract (MRC 6) – powerful nutritional molecules that help inhibit formation of new blood vessels by cancerous cells; antioxidant/detoxifier.

Natural Balance Cream – bioidentical progesterone derived from plant substances that help balance/reduce excess estrogens that promote growth of breast cancer cells, and encourage natural cell death.

Move from awareness to action. Pick up a breast cancer prevention flyer at your local MRC center and ask about Body in Balance® specials.

For more great information on breast cancer prevention, visit http://theseventhwoman.org/.

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Been Blown Off Track?!

Melissa L. White

By Melissa L. White, LCSW, MRC Medical Advisory Board member

We all have times when we seem to get pushed off the road to our goals. Sometimes we feel like we have been bombed, and the aftershock has sent us flying miles away from where we are supposed to be or where we want to be.

I for one feel like I have been bombed this week… anyone else? I had a busy week prior at work, and even busier weekend packed with way too much then transitioned into another fully packed week without my much needed down time. Remember my workout plan that I started about the same time I started this blog, yep, that was hit by shrapnel of the “so stressed, way too many tasks to complete, crap I need to sleep sometime and right now I am too tired to even think about exercising” kind. This is exactly the type of week that has turned my week of stress and derailing into “Wow, it’s been about three months since I exercise…what happened?!” To be brutally honest, there were warning signs that I missed, ignored or didn’t pay attention to and definitely some choices I made that added to the chaos.

Does this sound familiar? This happens for many of us with our diet and eating plans – really any positive lifestyle changes we try to make. Life can get in the way – hey, LIFE HAPPENS. We get to a place where we are motivated to make a positive change, like lose weight, eat healthy, start exercising and feel like we are on the road and nothing can stop us! That is until we have a week like I had, then we get off track for a day or two, which turns into a week, then a month, then several months, and then years! AAACCKK!

Or maybe we reached our goal and became complacent. We couldn’t keep up the effort because there was too much change and we insidiously slid inch by inch ’til we realized the healthy road we were on is nowhere in sight (insert Twilight Zone music here).

So, how do we stop? We have to know our patterns and be self aware. Pay attention to our behaviors. What is changing? What are the persistent thoughts you have – are they negative or positive and are they helping you or hindering you? We all have warning signs. The trick is to LISTEN and pay attention, and alter your choices to help instead of hinder you. This may involve asking for some help, becoming more self aware through therapy or counseling, reading some books or chatting about it with a trusted friend. We can’t do it all alone – we need support! I am back on track and called on the support of my husband and some friends. I am happily back on track with my exercise program and am feeling the benefits.

I encourage you to think about your patterns and the times you have been derailed from, blasted off or stealthily lead from the path to your goals. Then, I want to picture how you can overcome that this time. Remember to utilize the professionals at your local MRC to get you back on your path and more importantly to your goal!

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Body in Balance – On the Frontlines of Cancer Prevention

Candace Burch, and her daughter, Ryan (a former MRC weight loss consultant) – practicing breast cancer prevention at every age!

By Candace Burch, MA, MRC Hormone Health Educator

Prevention is Key! That’s our motto this “Pinktober,” during Breast Cancer Awareness Month, because we know that there is a big difference between awareness and action. At Metabolic Research Center, we are in action to help prevent breast cancer every day of the year by helping our clients balance their hormones and lose weight. As I mentioned in my previous blog, MRC clients just last month lost a combined total of more than 58,000 pounds, and it is our hope to see that figure surpassed this month – talk about pounds of prevention – way to go!

Medical research tells us that women who are overweight or obese have a 30 to 50 percent increased risk of breast cancer, but that doesn’t mean that we understand the mechanics. I am often asked to explain the link between obesity and breast cancer, so I am going to do my best to boil it down here to the essentials:

First of all, cancer-causing toxins accumulate in body fat – the more body fat, the more room for stored toxins. We can excrete these by losing weight and eating fiber that binds up toxins and escorts them out of the body. That’s where MRC’s low glycemic, low carbohydrate, low fat and high fiber dietary programs can help you shed body fat and reduce breast cancer risks.

Fat cells also contain the enzyme aromatase, which converts testosterone to estrogen. This is why overweight and obese women have more estrogen. The more estrogen produced in the breast tissue, the more chance of stimulating the growth of breast cancer cells. Nearly every risk factor for breast cancer is either directly or indirectly associated with an increase in estrogens. Ninety-four percent of MRC clients who tested their hormone levels were shown to be estrogen dominant – WOW!

Fat also produces substances called cytokines that are inflammatory in nature. A whole host of diseases, including cancers of the breast and prostate, are aided and abetted by silent inflammation.

Insulin resistance is linked with many health problems, especially Type II diabetes, but it also leads to breast cancer. That’s because insulin is actually a potent growth factor. The more sweets and simple carbs we eat, the more our insulin and “insulin-like growth factors” rise – a lethal combination that stimulates cancer cells to grow and multiply. A 2004 study out of Vanderbilt University found that women with high insulin AND insulin growth factor levels had a three-fold rise in the incidence of breast cancer.

Leptin, another hormone with multiple actions, is produced by fat tissue and has been shown to directly stimulate the growth of cancer cells. Its levels rise in people with increased body fat and indirectly trigger more aromatase activity.

Obesity leads to the reduction of sex hormone binding globulin, a protein that binds estrogen levels and keeps them out of circulation. When these levels go down, estrogen levels go up, become active, and thus stimulate the growth of breast cancer cells. Over 100 studies have investigated the links between obesity and breast cancer. Taken as a whole, their findings strongly indicate that overweight or obese women have a 30 to 50 percent greater risk of post-menopausal breast cancer than leaner women. It is known that women who continuously gain weight throughout life have a higher risk of breast cancer. Breast cancer is leading cause of death among middle aged women who coincidentally make up the greater percentage of the population that is 30 or more pounds overweight or obese.

After reading all of this, ask yourself, “What am I doing to reduce my risk for breast cancer?” If you need help losing weight and reducing your risks for breast cancer, MRC is happy to help you get on the healthy track. Visit our Web site to find a location near you! And better yet, bring a girlfriend with you!

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Fight Cancer in the Mind and Body

Melissa L. White

By Melissa L. White, LCSW, MRC Medical Advisory Board member

I was recently reviewing my notes from a training I attended about hormones – specifically estrogen and breast cancer – which was coincidental being that October is Breast Cancer Awareness month! Here is what I discovered that sent my synapses firing:

Dr. Sandeeta Pati, a function medicine doctor in Orlando, Fla., provided some specific information about breast cancer and treatment of breast cancer. In her presentation, she had a slide stating, “Breast Cancer: correct 5 areas of imbalance: Hormones, Nutrition, Toxins and MIND and BODY!” Great! I love it when doctors recognize the mind and body.

She went on to explain that “breast cancers occur over a 5-10 year period; cancer cells appear in our bodies on a daily basis and the healthy strong immune system removes these cells daily; when the mechanisms are awry, cancer cells have the opportunity to grow; mastectomy, chemotherapy and radiation may remove the existing cancer cells; it will not correct the underlying imbalances and deficiencies that allowed the cancer cells to develop and multiplying the first place.” It was the last statement coupled with her suggestions to doctors to check on a patients stress level and illness before making adjustments to hormone prescriptions that really brought home to me how much stress and the condition of our minds and bodies affects our health.

Okay, enough with the medical and back to what I really know… stress! So the connections I started making rapidly thanks to the cup of green tea and my morning dose of MRC’s Super Veggi Drink Mix were this: today, the stress we typically suffer is of the chronic, emotional kind and often in the form of negative thoughts, inner body bullies, and allowing ourselves to be exposed or live in negative and both chemically and emotionally toxic environments.

Another major source of mind and body stress today is our overall poor diet that is void of a fresh variety of fruits, meats and vegetables and plentiful in fast foods, refined carbohydrates, sugars and fats. So if stress affects our immune system, our hormones, our mind and body – hmmmm, those are 4 of the 5 areas that can be corrected to protect against breast cancer. When we ignore health in those areas, the cacophonous mixture can provide a breeding ground for, well, cancer cells. No wonder so many women are suffering.

All that information about taming inner body bullies, closing the door to negative thoughts and working to stay positive has a much deeper impact than just “that feel good touchy-feely stuff.” We are talking about a component to fight against breast cancer that WE CAN CONTROL by keeping our bodies and minds in balance with positivity and more importantly a healthy eating plan.

Check out some of the fresh and healthy recipes we have on our website. For more information about hormones and weight loss, please read additional blogs by Candace Burch, MA, and also read about our Body in Balance program.

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Balance Your Body to Beat Breast Cancer

Candace Burch

By Candace Burch, MA, MRC Hormone Health Educator

As you may know, Breast Cancer Awareness Month is in full swing. In October, millions of dollars will once again be found to battle a disease that one in 8 women will develop in her lifetime. That statistic hasn’t budged in ages, and as a health educator, it’s also hard to overlook the fact that the odds of surviving malignant breast cancer today are still about the same as they were 50 years ago – despite all the money raised for new treatments and procedures. That’s why wellness professionals in my field are intent on expanding breast cancer awareness beyond early detection and treatment to PREVENTION. It can be done, and at Metabolic Research Center weight loss locations around the country, we see it happening. By helping women lose weight and balance their hormones, we are helping them to reduce their risks for breast cancer.

Science is on our side in this. Almost every week, we hear of a new study about the link between breast cancer and poor nutrition, obesity, hormone imbalance, stress or toxins. It’s estimated that up to 27% of all breast cancer deaths worldwide are attributable to alcohol use, overweight or obesity – the most important contributor being overweight and obesity. Experts call these “modifiable” or preventable risk factors, yet only 5% of the National Cancer Institute’s research budget is dedicated to breast cancer prevention! Obviously, lots of room for improvement there, and health professionals in my field are working on it.

Meanwhile, MRC weight loss locations around the country are doing their part to make a difference. In September 2011 alone, our clients lost a combined total of 58,329 pounds (drumroll please!) - a number we can safely say will mean fewer breast cancer risks and fewer women who will ever have to encounter breast cancer in their lifetime!

Breast Cancer Awareness Month may come but once a year, but at MRC, we are tackling the issue every day of the year. PREVENTION IS THE KEY! Ask for our handout on breast cancer prevention and find out more about the Body in Balance Hormone Detection Kit and other specials during PINKTOBER!

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Checkup on Change

Melissa L. White

By Melissa L. White, LCSW, MRC Medical Advisory Board member

I want to take a moment this week to follow up on the content of the last two blogs, “Stuck in Your Own Head?!” and “Your Inner Body Bully.”

What have you noticed about your thoughts and inner body bully? Are you making attempts to close the door to negative thinking and tame the body bully? Have you said “Thank you” when someone has complimented you?

I know these are big changes and if you started paying attention, you are already cruising down the road to change. The key to changing a behavior is to first notice it, acknowledge it, observe it, figure out what tools you need, then actually USE those tools. So many times we stop at the “figure out what tools to use,” neglecting to actually use them. A hammer doesn’t work on its own, you have to swing it!

Change does not occur overnight, nor does change occur automatically just because you understand the concepts. I have found that people have very unrealistic expectations of themselves when learning new behaviors. There seems to be this thought that if you know and understand a behavior, how it is harmful and how to change it, that change just magically occurs. Yeah, not so much. Change is a choice that is made every day to use the new skill and incorporate it into daily life. Remember, you are altering a lifetime of a pattern, it doesn’t happen overnight no matter how smart you are!

An update on my progress as I started this blog and an exercise program around the same time… I am continuing with my scheduled exercise program and am now on a consistent third week! The switch I made to think of how it can be done – along with not expecting perfection – has really helped me maintain consistency.

What changes are you contemplating and what will help you maintain consistency? What support do you need? If you are contemplating weight loss and reading this blog indicates that you are already on your journey or seriously contemplating already, I honestly cannot think of a better place to start than Metabolic Research Center. I am positive we have what you need to be successful, not matter how many other times you have tried.

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Belly Fat – The Body’s Answer to Toxic Stress

Candace Burch

By Candace Burch, MA, MRC Hormone Health Educator

We’ve all heard that stress can make you fat, and there is no question that it does – especially around the middle. There is also no question that a healthy lifestyle can counteract the effect. Ok, got it, a “healthy lifestyle” – that all-important decision that goes right out the window when the boss reams us for missing a deadline or leaving work early to pick up a sick child from school. Nevermind that we met our quota with flying colors this month, we’re still under fire. So what do we do? Sit there and take it. Tense up. Fume over the unfairness of it all, obsess… and then? A raging appetite and craving for Reese’s peanut butter cups propels us down the hall to the nearest vending machine.

Sound familiar? Yes, but it need not be that way. We don’t have to be a walking cortisol catastrophe victimized by our own hormones. We can learn to take stress in stride and in so doing break the stress-fat connection.

But first a bit of physiology. Why does stress take up residence in belly fat of all places? Well for starters, fat cells have special receptors for the stress hormone, cortisol. And evidently, there are more of these receptors in the abdominal area than in other parts of the body, according to Pamela Peeke, MD, who investigates the link between obesity and stress. This makes sense, says Dr. Peeke, since the abdomen is an important “fat depot” in providing fuel for the stress response. And how does the body provide that fuel? By telling us to take in more calories of course. Aha, now the plot (and the belly) thickens! As Dr. Peeke puts it “we have turned that genetic ‘fight-or-flight’ response into the ‘stew-and-chew’ response.” If the stressor remains unresolved, cortisol stress hormones stay high and continue to stimulate appetite AND encourage fat cells deep inside the abdomen to store more fat, AND (to make matters even worse) tells the body to hang on to it! Now those designer jeans won’t zip and belts become a distant memory.

So… how to break that cycle? Try these seven steps to stress busting success:

1. Get the MRC Hormone Detection Kit to test for imbalances of cortisol/stress hormones.

2. If testing reveals imbalances ask about CortiTrim, Super Glucose Formula, Vitamin B, Trace Minerals, etc., to help normalize cortisol levels and curb sugar cravings.

3. If testing reveals estrogen dominance, ask about Natural Balance Cream a “bioidentical” progesterone that balances adrenal production of cortisol.

4. Release tension to lower high cortisol – stretch, walk, swim, meditate, do yoga, etc.

5: Get enough Vitamin ZZZZZZZ – Banish caffeine. Catnap, sleep in on the weekends. Studies show that less than 7 hours sleep a night adds up to more belly fat.

6. Don’t sweat the small stuff! Cultivate “me” time, take a bubble bath, take a vacation, take time to smell the roses (see me following my own good advice in the picture above). Join in on MRC’s connections classes to improve your stress-coping skills.

7: Stick to the program! Your low glycemic, low carb, low fat, high fiber MRC eating plan is perfectly designed for banishing belly fat and reaching your weight loss goals.

Let us know how you lower stress hormones and stick to the program!

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Your Inner Body Bully

Melissa L. White

By Melissa L. White, LCSW, MRC Medical Advisory Board member

I recently came across some articles about how difficult it is for women to accept compliments. A man wrote about his experience giving what he thought to be a genuine compliment to a woman at a gym. After he was interrogated and doubted, he walked away thinking he had just royally screwed up… all because the woman wasn’t able to simply say “thank you.”

Dr. Robyn Silverman, a child development specialist and body image expert, wrote an article and appeared on NBC’s Today Show about “Compliment Shutdown: Why Can’t a Woman Take a Compliment.” This brought to life a lesson that I learned many moons ago while attending a women’s self esteem group as part of a graduate internship. What I learned there was when a compliment is given, you say “thank you,” even if you don’t believe it.

What is so interesting about Dr. Robyn’s article is the experience that women have of feeling the need to debunk or dispute the compliment – even when it is something as simple as “I like your hair.” Then I started thinking about all the ways I craftily debunk compliments, even after saying “thank you” like I was taught.

“You look nice today Melissa.” “Oh, thank you, I just grabbed whatever I didn’t have to iron this morning.” Okay, so maybe the not ironing part is true, but I am still downplaying the compliment. By my reply, I am indicating that I didn’t try and implying that I don’t look that nice, because I didn’t work hard. I sure don’t want you to think I am cocky or stuck up, because I look nice. Whew, what a mental workout! Really, saying thank you is SO MUCH easier!

This issue runs deep and wide, and is related to a term that I found very powerful – “our inner body bullies.” This goes along with the open door to negative thoughts I mentioned in my previous blog “Stuck in Your Own Head?!” Inside that door are destructive thoughts and this mean, nasty bully constantly telling us we are not good enough, smart enough, skinny enough, fit enough and perfect enough. ARRRGGHHH!

We don’t have to deny our strengths, so that others don’t feel bad about themselves. They will feel bad about themselves no matter what we do unless we provide an example for them and shine. When you look nice – even if you don’t feel nice – and someone compliments you, say “thank you” and move on. Keep that body bully behind that door. Bite your lip, squeeze your hands, do whatever it takes to keep that body bully under control and yourself from negating a genuine compliment. When you look good and feel good and someone notices, say “thank you.” You can even add, “I feel really good today.” There is so much negative in the world. Be part of the positive posse and demonstrate to your fellow women how we can let our assets shine and be proud without being arrogant.

Below are the links to Dr. Robyn’s article and a link to her interview on the Today Show, which includes the article written by the poor man who thought he was doing a good deed by complimenting a woman at his local gym. You men will be interested in that one – it could be the difference between being labeled “that guy” or not!

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/44340053/ns/today-today_health/#.Tmdxa2rnFeY

http://www.drrobynsilverman.com/body-image/compliment-shutdown-why-cant-a-woman-take-a-compliment/

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